By RALSTON HEATH
In life, everybody faces problems daily. Each person needs to know how to solve their problems.
Many problems exist. There is economic, social, moral, political, religious, mental, and so on. Here in this short article we will learn solve our problems. The solution for every problem can be found within the problem itself.
The important thing to is to not become identified with the problem. People have a tendency to become identified with their problem and this identification is so intense that we become the problem. The result of this is that we fail to find a solution because by being a problem we cannot solve a problem. Have you ever heard the old saying that two wrongs do not make a right? Well, a problem can never solve another problem.
If you have a serious problem, do not become the problem, but realize this great truth: A problem cannot exist without a solution, and a solution can not exist without a problem. . You need to have a measure of mental calm to solve a problem. An unsure, panicked, or confused mind simply cannot solve any problem.
Try this as an experiment. Go find a fifth grade math book and open it to the first set of practice problems that you find. Find a friend or your spouse and have them yell at you. Tell them to be really mean and loud, to get in your face. No holds barred (conversationally speaking) and try to do the math problems. Time it for ten minutes. Now after you let your feelings recover, have your friend or spouse talk smoothly and gently, play some soothing music. Now do the math problems, again for ten minutes.
You will find that when you were calm you were able to easily and accurately work and solve the math problems. When you were a bit stressed you could not concentrate and may have done only a few and probably got those wrong. So? You ask. What this does is demonstrate that you cannot solve a problem with a problem.
So now you must find a way to calm yourself mentally. Go find yourself any healthy place: your back porch, a city park, the beach, etc. Distract yourself with something different, some gentle music and then, calm your self to be at peace. Do not worry about anything except what is happening right now. Ignore any attempts to remember yesterday, or to speculate on tomorrow. Simply realize where you are right now. Try to cause your brain to be still. Suddenly you will feel relaxed and peaceful. When you become aware of this feeling, memorize it! It is paramount that you remember this calm.
Now, again, I remind you that the solution to every problem is within the problem. Remember that without peace you cannot do anything new. You need calm and peace to solve the problem. In modern life we have many problems, and unfortunately, we do not always have peace. This is a true puzzle, a conundrum, because we cannot solve problems without being calm. We need to investigate what the principal factor is that puts an end to peace within and outside ourselves; we need to discover what causes the conflict. If we comprehend the cause of an illness, we cure the patient. If we know the cause of the conflict, we solve our problems.
If we carefully analyze ourselves, we discover that a constant state conflict exists within us: what we want to be and what we actually are. We are poor and we want to be millionaires, we are soldiers and we want to be generals, we are single and want to be married, we are employees and we want to be managers, etc. The state of contradiction engenders conflict, pain, moral misery, absurd actions, violence, gossip, jealousy, hatred, and prejudice, etc. Shall I do this? Or that, or the other? how? when? etc. Mental contradiction creates conflicts and frustrates the solution of problems. This state of conflict can never bring us peace. A person without peace can never solve their problems.
So first we need to solve the causes of the contradictions, then to finish with the conflicts. Now you ask "But what if you do not have time to find the cause"? This is why you had to know what peace felt like. Calm yourself and remember what the feeling of peace felt like. Maintain that feeling. Now look again at the problem and make your decision. This only takes a few seconds, and with practice soon becomes almost instant. This way will peace arrive and, with it, the solutions of the problems.
Do not try to blame others for our contradictions; the causes of these contradictions are within us. Mental conflict exists between what we are and what we want to be, between what a problem is and what we want it to be. When we have a problem of any kind our first reaction is to think about it, resist it, deny it, accept it, explain it, etc. It is necessary to understand that with mental anguish, worry, or confusion, it is not possible to solve any problem. The best way to react to a problem is with silence. This silence comes by not thinking about the problem. The silence comes when we realize that there is nothing to solve without a problem. Without a problem a solution can not exist. This silence arrives when we realize that resisting it solves no problem. From mental peace intelligent action is created the intuitive and wise action that will solve the problem no matter how difficult it might be is born. This intelligent action is not the result of any reaction. When we perceive the problem, when we notice the fact without affirming it, denying it, or explaining it, when we do not accept the fact, or reject it, then the silence of the mind arrives. Intuition flourishes with mental peace. From silence the intelligent action that totally solves the problem bursts forth. Only in mental silence and quietude is there freedom and wisdom.
Mental conflict is destructive and ruinous and is a result of opposed desires: we want and we do not want. We are in constant contradiction and this, in fact, is conflict. The constant contradiction that exists within us is due to the struggle of opposite desires. There is a constant transition of one desire for another desire. A permanent desire does not exist in the human being. Every longing is temporary; you want a job and after you have it, you desire a different job. The employee wants to be a manager; the priest wants to be a bishop. Nobody is satisfied with what they have. Everybody is full of unsatisfied desires and everybody wants satisfaction. Life is an absurd succession of fleeting and vain desires. When we at last see that all the desires in life are fleeting and vain, when we comprehend that desire is the cause of our conflicts and bitterness, when we understand that, then true peace of mind is born and conflicts disappear and true peace arrives.
About the Author: Ralston "Skeeter" Heath has done a lot of traveling as well as served for 25 years in the military. He has learned about various esoteric subjects his whole life. The views he expresses are refreshing and practical. He writes in an easy to understand style and with uncommon wit. He is developing his own web site where he will combine all his knowledge in one place.
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